Pure on Purpose
“Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God.” – Matthew 5:8, NIV
Hi, Friends! It's Amanda Jeanne, here to talk about purity this month with you. I am so excited to share with you what is on my heart regarding purity, so let's dive right in!
What is purity? A quick Google search yields the following result: “Freedom from adulteration or contamination. Freedom from immorality, especially of a sexual nature.”
Purity is not just a state of virginity, it is a state of heart and mind. You can still be a virgin and have your heart and your mind in the wrong place. You can be a virgin and still be viewing pornography, messing around with your significant other, or even be lusting after another person in your heart. All of these can be an impure state of heart and mind. Titus 1:15 states, “To the pure, all things are pure, but to the defiled and unbelieving, nothing is pure; but both their minds and their consciences are defiled” (ESV). Notice: purity has much more to do with where you have placed your faith and identity than whether you have had sex.
The truth is in the core of our being, in our heart of hearts, we hear the words of our amazing Creator, “It is not good for man to be alone…” (Genesis 2:18, ESV). We crave intimacy, we long to be known, and we desire to be on a team. Did you know that the Hebrew word for ‘intimacy’ is “yada,” which means “to know, to be known, and to be deeply respected”? This is why we date. We are looking for a connection in a relationship, which makes us feel complete.
How many people do you know who go to a bank to apply for a mortgage who have no intention of buying a house? This seems like a rather silly process: presenting all your tax documents, filling out mountains of paperwork, and having your background scrutinized, just so you can walk out of the bank and say, “Well, they will give me the loan, too bad I am not buying.” People who value their time and energy would not go through this process unless they were serious about purchasing a home.
So, why would we do this with our emotions, energy, and money in dating?
Dating with a purpose means prayerfully seeking what Jesus has in store for you and trusting that a “no” from Jesus could save you from a life of pain. What romance movies and novels don’t tell you is you can be just as lonely after marriage as you were when you were single. The walk down the aisle does not guarantee “happily ever after,” rather, most of the time, marriage exposes the flaws and weaknesses in you and your spouse, which were only briefly highlighted during dating. Warning signs overlooked in dating can be marriage-breakers later. No amount of sexual chemistry can overcome character flaws. No amount of “fun dates” make up for a man or a woman with a temper, who becomes instantly enraged at you when you do something they don’t like. There is no amount of makeup, physical fitness, or changes to appearance that can justify a lust issue. If the person does not have an internal compass that points him or her straight to Jesus, you will find that marriage is not as fulfilling as God designed.