“And Adam knew his wife Eve…” (Genesis 4:1a, KJV).
Hi, again! It's Amanda, back to continue our conversation on purity. I'd like to share with you an experience I had that really stood out to me. I once heard a story of a girl who had placed her entire identity on keeping herself pure as a virgin. Her virginity was her prized possession, rather than who she was in Christ. When she decided to get married, she blamed the Church for making her feel “dirty” for having sex, rather than admitting that she wrongly attributed her self-worth to being a virgin. Hers is not the only story I’ve heard like this. I wonder, how would she and many others have taken the news that you can be pure and still have great sex with your husband? I wonder, did she know that God, who is entirely pure, designed sex and made it enjoyable?
God actually gave each of us sexual organs. He made our brains to release bonding chemicals during orgasm. The Holy Spirit inspired the Songs of Solomon to be placed within the Bible. This book details a wonderful romantic encounter between a husband and wife - complete with this charge: “Promise me, O women of Jerusalem, not to awaken love until the time is right” (Song of Solomon 8:4, NLT). In other words, do not awaken love until your man has put a ring on your finger, and he has said, “Until death do us part.”
God gives us good gifts, and sex is one of them.
The Bible says, “Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth, a lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love” (Proverbs 5: 18-19, ESV). However, as with every good gift, sex used in the wrong way is dangerous. The other night, my children and I were playing with streamer “fireworks” in our yard. They are completely enjoyable, a ton of fun; however, if they are misused, they can cause severe damage.
Being the amazing God that He is, the Lord wants to give us beautiful gifts, but He wants them used in love, and within the parameters in which He designed them to function. But true love without a relationship with God is impossible, for God is love (1 John 4:8, ESV). And since sin separates us from God, it also separates us from love and genuine enjoyment.
That is why purity begins with placing our faith in the only perfect sacrifice, Jesus. Because we only truly love when we come to know Love Himself (1 John 4:19).